So I guess the best way to start this is by going to the beginning. Anyone who knows us knows we love to talk. We both have a slightly different version of "Our story". So you will be getting my version. Chad can retell it in his fashion if he would like. :)
Our story begins about 5 years ago. We met while working for Blockbuster.
I was living with my daughter Alexis in a One bedroom apartment. I worked full time and barely saw my child. Luckily I have a lot of family who lived farely close to me at the time. There was always someone there to help me with whatever I needed. My dad would pick Lex up from daycare most days and feed her dinner by the time that I got there. We would spend an hour or two together and then she would be off to bed. Oh, I hated working it truly keeps you from getting to really know your kids sometimes. I had been going through a pretty rough divorce when we met. I was right in the middle of it. Lex's dad had quit seeing her or truly having anything to do with her. So here we were me and my cute little girl who was 6 at the time struggling through the day to day stuff just trying to get to the next day. Being a parent is hard. Being a single parent well it was rough. I was a call center agent, so I made just enough money to barely get by as long as I didn't mind over draft and late payments. I also had a huge support system from my parents and family. When new school clothes were needed or anything else beyond my ordinary budget they always came through for me.
I really have never figured out how employers expect people to survive on $10-$11 dollars an hour.
But back to our story.
So here I am sitting at work and this adorable guy walks in to the call center. We were used to the normal older pot bellied gentleman coming through, some married guys etc. No one had ever caught my attention at work until this moment. He made his rounds to each cubical setting up our new cisco phone system. I will admit (now I never have before) I was nervous. I thought he was so cute. And newly unattached I had been dating someone I had known in the past, but was not used to talking to men in general just yet. So it was my turn. Here he was working on my phone. I had butterflies in my stomach. He started talking about how he was going through a divorce. Well we had common ground low and behold. So I started really talking now. I was so excited. I mean after a year so far in the trenches this is a subject I could write a book on. So he gives me his card with his home number on the back to call him so we can talk about our "Divorces". As soon as he left my co workers were asking what we talked about and how cute he was etc... You know girls.
So I had been dating someone for awhile I think mostly because I just never knew how to be alone. Even now I hate being alone. I like having someone to talk to.
We use to talk on the phone just about every day after work during our commutes. He would "stalk" my computer. I would be sitting working and he would VPN into my machine open up a note pad and start typing. Scared the hell out of me the first time he did it. Definately made working more interesting. Some nights we'd fall asleep talking to each other (literally). The more I knew him the more I really liked him. Well I chose to completely break it off with the other guy and really give this a go. It felt right you know. So I call his home number one day to talk to him and "his wife answered" she asked if I would like to leave a message.
Are you kidding me! So I did not break it off with anyone. I decided right then and there he was a liar. And we would never be more than friends.
So, it wasn't until a year or so later that he finally talked me into going on a real date with him. Once he cleared up that the "wife" had been having issue with her mom and moved back in temporarily because his son had no where to live at the time until she got an apartment of her own.
Well everything happens for a reason right? I think we were finally together when we were healed and ready for a new real relationship. So, in March of 2005 Chad and I went on our first date. I will let him write about what he thinks our first real date was. But I will tell you it is not true. Our first date was in March of 2005.
Chad was living in our home with his roommate and best friend Nate. He saw his son Jaden as much as he could. Nicole worked at the time so Jaden was in daycare by the house. Chad has always been an amazing dad. That is one of the things that still attracts me to him.
We went on our first vacation together to Cozumel in July. And the week school started Alexis and I moved in. Poor Nate moved out not long after. (I am sure it had nothing to do with his hatred of kids.)
We decided not to have anymore kids back in Feb 2006 so on Valentine's Day he had a Vasectomy. We were very serious on this stance. We were also not ever getting married since we both saw how that can turn out from our first experiences. Eww.
So Back in May 2007 Chad accepted a position that promised to be very lucrative in Alaska. The thought of not being together was all we needed to become engaged. Alaska is apparently a very big union state, so things were not as we had hoped. Chad returned home after only a few weeks. We eloped on June, 8, 2007. A few days later we decided we wanted lots of grandkids when we got older. The only way for that to happen was to start up our original dream we both had as kids and have a large family. We saved up our money over the following year and on June 7, 2008 we renewed our vows in front of family and friends. Then on June 20th, 2008 we drove down to Oklahoma and have a Vasectomy Reversal. Let me tell ya even after waiting 4 days out in a hotel room that was one tough ride back for Chad. Poor guy sat on a Boppy the whole way home.
We are very happy together. And after going through Choices we have had the most amazing marriage I could possibly imagine. Yes, we have disagreements. And when I PMS I want to literally bite him. :) But we truly enjoy each other and love being together.
We sit together when we watch tv and cuddle. We have to be careful because we tend to get quite reclusive.
Hmm can't wait to see his side of our story. I left plenty to be told.
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